This is one of my favourite fables, because in so few words, it encloses a whole way of living. I remembered it during a shooting (I know it's strange), and struck me in my mind with such force, that I decided to share it through my blog. And here we go. Excessive attachment is one of the great modern evils. It's quiet, elusive and hard to perceive, because it's fully integrated, even accepted. But in essence, becoming attached is nothing more than an expression of our insecurities.
Giving up to the attachment we feel for the material, for our work or for other people, doesn't mean giving up to our goals, but rather to the interest for the outcome. At the precise moment we do this, it's logical to see how we can adopt a more relaxed attitude to the immensity of life. This is because detachment is built upon trust in our potential, while attachment does it upon the fear of loss.
When we feel insecure, we stick to things. To other people. But we aren't aware that this is nothing more than a metaphor of ouroboros: it only keeps feeding the fear of loss. How many times have we heard "without her/him, I won't be happy?" Detachment doesn't mean to not love, but to be independent. It means to fully live because our vital experience is no longer overshadowed by the fear of loss. It means to share the present. This present.
It's necessary to get into uncertainty, to delve into the unknown. This is a fertile ground for creativity, where a wide range of possibilities unfolds. Without uncertainty, life is just a repetition of memories, of experiences that we have already lived. And so we slowly become victims of the past. Uncertainty connects with detachment in a elegant manner.
Living with detachment doesn't mean not having goals. They are necessary, essential to mark the direction in which we walk. But what is really beautiful, is that between the point where we actually are, and the end, it's full of uncertainty, which means an almost infinite universe of possibilities. The difference is also that, through attachment, we only enjoy the map, while with detachment, we enjoy the territories ahead us.
All the things to which we adhere, without which we believe that we can't be happy, are just reasons for anxiety. What makes us happy isn't the situation around us, but the thoughts inside our minds.